The original intent was to safeguard women from the evil men who left the woman penniless with a broken heart. But what happens when the man is immutably kind-hearted, warm, gentle, loving, and generous, but accidentally got fooled into marrying a bad apple? Convinced out of a prenuptial agreement, because he (surprise, surprise) trusted the woman? So.. she becomes accustom to a certain lifestyle, especially if she’s lucky enough not to work. Instead, she spends ample time at the neighborhood boutique and perhaps dalliances with very expensive acting classes. Despite desperate pleads to spare his paycheck or find a constant hobby, she opts for the most lackadaisical lifestyle that suits her.
Then they divorce and she asks for everything, and being a girl, takes everything (in addition to what’s already been spent). One person’s dream and hard work he worked hard for all his life is gone, just like *that*, at the request of the Court. Simply because she requires the same lifestyle not before marriage, but during marriage and more. And then the asking stops (hopefully) after all has been wrung dry (the only laundry she thoroughly cleaned).
There’s a name we attribute to that sort–worthless. But I’m confident in the subsequent Karma the returns to bite you in the bottom no matter how you try to redeem thyself. No amount of OLMS or incense will dissipate the memory of Retribution until one rights the wrong.
If you have children, if your husband cheated, if he committed an atrocity, then there lies a solid law to protect the woman. Yet, gun laws protect law abiding citizens, but who protects the good people from the bad apples who flip the bird to gun control? Marriage laws (at least in California) easily feed greedy, selfish, manipulative, lazy people.
I think the justice system left one gaping loophole in the divorce law. Who protects the kind man?
I’ll get into the abuse of “sexual harassment” laws later.
Ironically enough, I knew a successful business woman who didn’t get squat from a divorce when the ex-hus (who cheated repeatedly on her & they have kids) was smart enough to safeguard himself in the prenup. Out of sheer trust, she neglected to thoroughly safeguard herself and to top the cherry off, owed him liquid assets instead.
I’m lucky to know more good men than bad men (believe me, there are some men who deserve to be left dry), but I’ve personally witnessed the kindest, most hard-working men, who after divorce, were left with empty pockets and despair. The current divorce laws have only turned the tables. We forget sometimes women are capable of cruelty and manipulation and selfishness too–not only a man’s talent.
I’m not passionate enough about this topic to attempt at a law degree to fill in the loopholes in the justice system. It’s simply an opinion I’ve developed over the years. That’s why I’m blogging and don’t intend (at the moment) to do anything about this one-of-many-injustices. But perhaps if someone(s) felt compelled enough to arrange some changes, I’d fill in the bubble next to the viable revision to the current law on the ballot that comes in my mail every-so-often. Until then, in the wise words of Mr. West, “WE WANT PRENUP!” A very well-written one at that.
But what I will do is continue my research on how to make the perfect dumpling and noodle, because perfecting these recipes means bringing ultimate happiness to many bellies, including mine. My future omni contribution to the world.